What to Say
It is common to feel awkward or uncertain about what to say to a bereaved person in the days following their loss. You can demonstrate your love, attention, and support to a grieving person in a number of ways. While just your presence can be enough, still a kind word, a compassionate touch, or a loving hug can mean much to show the bereaved that you care about and support them.
The following expressions of sympathy can help to convey your compassion and concern for the bereaved. Depending on how close you were to the deceased person and the bereaved, some or all of the following expressions may be appropriate.
The goal of expressing sympathy is to offer your compassion and concern for the bereaved. You can say how much you will miss the person who died or you can share a happy memory. The most important thing to communicate is that you care about the bereaved person and you are available as a source of support.
Parents should take into consideration the age of the child, his capability to understand what is happening, and the type of funeral service that will be held, and make a decision accordingly. If the parent believes the child is capable of handling the situation, then they may discuss the death itself and the meaning of the funeral ceremony in age-appropriate language. At the funeral, parents should be prepared to leave early, should the child react in a way not anticipated or become disruptive.
Patience and understanding from the parent is important. Before and after the funeral, the child should always be allowed to ask questions and to grieve if needed.